I throw his roses into the trash in front of him? But should I?

My bf came to NY to see me from MD, and he said he got a surprise for. He brough out a dozen of roses from his suitcase and they were a little withered and some petals were already dried up at the end of some flowers.



I was so angry I took the the rose and throw them in to the trash can in front of him.



What made me so angry is that he see the roses are dead and he still buys them for me. It so thoughless, its like he buying me rose because its a progress or chores, not because he cares.



Am I too irrational? maybe I am.

We been together for 3 valentines already, and this is the first time he remembers its valentine. I really looked forward to spending this nice day together, and i planned a lot of thing, but this really puts it off to a bad start for us.



Lady: would you be angry if you receive dead looking roses from your valentine? And what would you have done?



Guys, how would you have reacted if you were my bf?



THanks for your help

I throw his roses into the trash in front of him? But should I?
oh, the poor roses
Reply:I think I would have behaved more charitable. YOU destroyed Valentines day because you couldn't control yourself. Yes, dead flowers are upsetting, but to throw a hissy fit is never appropriate.



I've received some pretty thoughtless gifts from my husband and I do the same thing every time. "Thank you, dear." *forced smile* Then a week or so later I talk to him about his poor choices.
Reply:He remembered! Throwing them away was wrong. How hurtful! My husband brings me flowers every other week. Sometimes money is tight and he buy's the cleaneranced flowers that are withering with some petals dried....

Be thankful your boyfriend tried.



The whole meaning of receiving something is- the thought the person giving- is putting into the idea.



You cannot take back your actions or words but you can apologize and let him know how selfish you were being and MAKE it up to him by putting thought into your apology.

This is my opinion
Reply:I love "Homer S's" answer.



You were over reacting, and ungrateful and he deserves someone who will respect him.
Reply:Firstly, if my bf came to another state to see me, I'd be thrilled to see him. If he brought me wilted flowers, he STILL CAME TO ANOTHER STATE TO SEE ME!!! It would be forgivable.



You completely overreacted!



To answer your other questions, I personally wouldn't be angry if I got dead roses for valentines (then again I kinda like dead roses).



And If I were in your bf's shoes, I would have smacked you and went right back home. He tried to do something nice for you, and you just threw his gift away! He probably bought them at a nice flower store in MD and they wilted on the trip!
Reply:Well that was mean of him to give you dead roses but considering he had them in his suitcase I doubt they were dead when he bought them. I think you over reacted a tad....

try to salvage the rest of the day... be happy you got to spend the day together not what he bought you.
Reply:THEY WERE IN HIS SUITCASE!!!



HE BOUGHT THEM FRESH!!!



THEY WITHERED ON THE TRIP FROM NY TO MD!!!



GIVE HIM A BREAK!!!
Reply:They probably weren't dead when he bought them. I don't know why he would put them in his suitcase though (I'm guessing he flew? .. but still).



Either way, it was thoughtful of him. Guys do strange things. It amazes me that men and women are even within the same phylum, being as different as we are.



Sounds like he means well .. but that he may lose his head if it weren't attached sometimes.



I wouldn't be to hard on him. I hope you didn't hurt his feelings by throwing them in the trash like that. Kind of the same thing like if, you cooked him dinner, burnt it accidentally but offered it to him anyways, and he said it's gross and chucked it in the garbage.



As far as your feelings getting hurt by the withered flowers, I understand, and can see where you're coming from. Sometimes us women can be really expectant %26amp; irrational, and sometimes it's just the way we feel. ...... Here's something I always try to remember .. You can't take back your actions, but you can always think twice first. Silly maybe, but it works to keep that in mind.



Best wishes!! :) %26amp; Happy Valentines Day!!
Reply:How on earth do drama queens like you even have boyfriends? Do you even know how roses work? So now you're spending this "nice day together" on Y! Answers? Weird.
Reply:When you put flowers in a suitcase (an with no water) they will look that way.But he didnt buy them that way, he just shouldnt of put them in the suitcase (but i guess he thought holding them would ruin them more then in a suitcase). I honestly wouldnt of throw them away though. The thought is what counts, an even if they looked black i would still put them in a vase on the table just because it was from him and i love that he put the thought into it. Also, in a way its like punishment for remembering to get them (give him credit that he even got you flowers for valentines day). But he didnt bring them that way intentionally, next time he needs to buy them when he gets there not before he leaves. But definately pull the flowers out of the trash and put them on the table (if you can) if not appologize for throwing them away and that you really did love the thought but that you thought he bought them dead and not alive.
Reply:Would it have made you more mad if he didn't have anything for you at all? Just think of it that way....

Unless you are 16 or younger, it was kind of rash and immature to react that way. A cool headed person would have been able to joke about the condition of the flowers and move on to the fun things you were planning.

Better luck next time...
Reply:i think they were probably wilted because they went on a long trip without water. he didnt buy them for you looking like that probably, especially not if he went all the way to New York just for YOU on valentines day! dont let this screw up your day! talk to him about it and tell him they were a nice idea anyway. have fun 2day!! happy v-day!
Reply:The roses were probably fresh when he bought them. They probably wilted while in his suitcase, which he did not foresee.



Now you have ruined the weekend for the both of you. Seems like you could have made your point less harshly, and still salvaged the weekend.



But no worries; if he has any self-esteem, he will find a new girlfriend soon.