I can understand not wanting to smell like flowers if your a dude . but when I get dry skin it itches. don't guys want to NOT ITCH. or are guys physiologically different somehow to where this isn't a problem for them.
Why don't guys use moisturizer?
Because We aren't Women.
Reply:Win. Report It
Reply:There is non-scented lotion. My boyfriend was talking about how his skin was getting dry while pumping out my way too expensive face moisturizer like it was nothing. I had to grab it away from him. Made me laugh though.
Reply:Because they want to be dry freaks!
Reply:Your kidding, right? To put on lotion requires some dedication and activity...all way to high maintenance for the average man.
...however they never figure out that scratching the itch takes more energy than putting on lotion...
Go figure.
Reply:Haha. When I first met my husband he never used moisturizer and used a bar of soap to wash his face. I showed him the difference! Now he uses Arbonne face wash and moisturizer he LOVES it and it has disminished his wrinkles! ;-)
Guys don't know that they are supposed to use it, they think its only for women!
They are totally wrong!!
Reply:You hit the nail right on the head!!! As a carpenter you need rough skin so that you constantly don't get splinters or get cuts easily!!!
Reply:haha my boyfriend has really bad callouses from playing basketball all the time and he just gave into my hand lotion!!
Reply:I'm a man, and i use lotion or moisturizers becuase who wants to be ashy all day? Not using lotion doesn't make you anymore manly and using lotion doesnt make you anymore of a girl
Reply:There are guys who use moisturizer. The hot, good-looking guys do at least.
Reply:they think its not manly
Reply:Some do use moisturizer but the many out there that don't, just don't want to be seen at the store buying moisturizer and plus using moisturizer will make some feel even a little less of a man.
Reply:They are afraid they will be judged as homosexual, which is pretty lame...maybe thats why homosexual guys look better than straight ones.
Reply:some guys do because they care about the way they look, personally i do and im 14. but some guys dont cuz they think they will be gay if they do use mosterizer.ur only gay if u think ur gay:)
Reply:I have finally gotten my husband to wear a bit of unscented but he should have started 10 years ago to prevent some of the wrinkles from starting! lol. It is a strange thing that they don't, but I think it may be because shaving cream might moisturize a bit...though not around their eyes! (I hope!)
Reply:Man Law states that only girls and gays use moisturizers
Real men clean their skin with sticks and stones.
Reply:I use non-scented lotion in the winter when my eczema starts acting up. And yes, my skin starts itching, too.
Reply:because they have too much pride to not be soft.
good question.
Reply:i think some guys are just self conscious.
my friends are guys and they use moisturizer all the time. :]
Reply:they dont moistureize when people are around so people dont think they're 'femine'. they probably do, though.
Reply:I use it when my hands get dry but I don't use scented ones
Reply:I don't use mositurizur and i never itch, babe.
Reply:if ur black u need 2
Reply:they think its gay to have good skin.
Reply:some do!! me but sssshhhhh
Reply:I use lotion. Also, most black guys use lotion because we like soft skin and ash shows up more prominantly on darker skin. If you are dark skinned and didn't use lotion people would be calling you "Ashy Larry"!
Reply:Well, I suppose it's because we associate lotion with "Spanking The Monkey". Most guys probably don't realize there are other uses for that stuff in the Lubriderm bottle.
Reply:50yo-I use EMU oil and love it. Smells muskie and my gal loves the way "all" my skin feels. Funny tho, when I was younger-I never did get flakie, and I never itched. That said, I was alway in the sun and used good tanning lotions and oils so that could be why I was never really itched and/or scaled.
Reply:I use lotion because I hate cracked and sandpaper-like skin. I don't see why men don't use it. It's kinda strange since men are all about the latest and greatest technology, but shun things that affect their appearance.
Reply:I use moisturizer's but not scented.
Reply:not everyone's skin itches when it dries. i wouldn't want my man to have soft hands anyway.
Reply:guys use glitter instead
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Wednesday, February 15, 2012
China: From Death Camp to Civilization. Why very limited power to government is crucial? Mao unknown story?
http://www.lewrockwell.com/rockwell/chin...
A hysteria of sorts has been generated by reports that some of China's products lack quality control. Some cat food has been tainted. A few cell-phone batteries have blown up. Cough syrup contained stuff that makes you sick. And so on. In response, the Chinese government actually executed its regulatory head of food and product safety, Zheng Xiaoyu.
How very strange this last point is! In the West, we long ago gave up the idea that these people are actually supposed to carry out their jobs and should be personally responsible for their failure to do so.
What is most striking about these product criticisms is how historically insular they appear in light of the modern history of China. This is a subject that is deeply painful, horrifying in its detail, highly instructive in helping us understand politics – and also puts into perspective these reports of recent troubles in China. It's a scandal, in fact, that few Westerners are even aware, or, if they are aware, they are not conscious, of the bloody reality that prevailed in China between the years 1949 and 1976, the years of rule by Mao Zedong
How many died as a result of persecutions and the communist policies of Mao? Perhaps you care to guess? Many people over the years have attempted to guess. But they have always underestimated. As more data rolled in during the 1980s and 1990s, and specialists have devoted themselves to investigations and estimates, the figures have become ever more reliable. And yet they remain imprecise. What kind of error term are we talking about? It could be as low as 40 million. It could be as high as 100 million – or more. In the Great Leap Forward from 1959 to 1961 alone, figures range between 20 million to 75 million. In the period before, 20 million. In the period after, tens of millions more.
As scholars in the area of mass death point out, most of us can't imagine 100 dead or 1000. Above that, we are just talking about statistics: they have no conceptual meaning for us. And there is only so much ghastly information that our brains can absorb, only so much blood we can imagine. And yet there is more to why China's communist experiment remains a hidden fact: it makes a decisive case against government power, one even more compelling than the cases of Russia or Germany in the 20th century.
The horror was foreshadowed in a bloody civil war following the Second World War. After some nine million people died, the communists emerged victorious in 1949, with Mao as the ruler. The land of Lao-Tzu (rhyme, rhythm, peace), Taoism (compassion, moderation, humility), and Confucianism (piety, social harmony, individual development) was seized by the strangest import to China ever: Marxism from Germany via Russia. It was an ideology that denied all logic, experience, economic law, property rights, and limits on the power of the state on grounds that these notions were merely bourgeois prejudices, and what we needed to transform society was a cadre with all power to transform all things.
It's bizarre to think about it, really: posters of Marx and Lenin in China, of all places, and rule by an ideology of robbery, dictatorship, and death. So spectacular has the transformation been in the last 25 years that one would hardly know that any of this ever happened, except that the Communist Party is still running the place while having tossed out the communist part.
The experiment began in the most bloody way possible following the Second World War, when all Western eyes were focused on matters at home and, to the extent there was any foreign focus, it was on Russia. The "good guys" had won the war in China, or so we were led to believe in times when communism was the fashion.
The communization of China took place in the usual three stages: purge, plan, and scapegoat. First there was the purge to bring about communism. There were guerillas to kill and land to nationalize. The churches had to be destroyed. The counterrevolutionaries had to be put down. The violence began in the country and spread later to the cities. All peasants were first divided into four classes that were considered politically acceptable: poor, semi-poor, average, and rich. Everyone else was considered a landowner and targeted for elimination. If no landowners could be found, the "rich" were often included in this group. The demonized class was ferreted out in a country-wide series of "bitterness meetings" in which people turned in their neighbors for owning property and being politically disloyal. Those who were so deemed were immediately executed along with those who sympathized with them.
The rule was that there had to be at least one person killed per village. The number killed is estimated to be between one and five million. In addition, another four to six million landowners were slaughtered for the crime of being capital owners. If anyone was suspected of hiding wealth, he or she was tortured with hot irons to confess. The families of the killed were then tortured and the graves of their ancestors looted and pillaged. What happened to the land? It was divided into tiny plots and distributed among the remaining peasants.
Then the campaign moved to the cities. The political motivations here were at the forefront, but there were also behavioral controls. Anyone who was suspected of involvement in prostitution, gambling, tax evasion, lying, fraud, opium dealing, or telling state secrets was executed as a "bandit." Official estimates put the number of dead at two million with another two million going to prison to die. Resident committees of political loyalists watched every move. A nighttime visit to another person was immediately reported and the parties involved jailed or killed. The cells in the prisons themselves grew ever smaller, with one person living in a space of about 14 inches. Some prisoners were worked to death, and anyone involved in a revolt was herded with collaborators and they were all burned.
There was industry in the cities, but those who owned and managed them were subjected to ever tighter restrictions: forced transparency, constant scrutinies, crippling taxes, and pressure to offer up their businesses for collectivization. There were many suicides among the owners of small and medium-sized businesses, who saw the writing on the wall. Joining the party provided only temporary respite, since in 1955 began the campaign against hidden counterrevolutionaries in the party itself. A principle here was that one in 10 party members was a secret traitor.
As the rivers of blood rose ever higher, Mao brought about the Hundred Flowers Campaign in two months of 1957, the legacy of which is the phrase we often hear: "let a hundred flowers bloom." People were encouraged to speak freely and give their point of view, an opportunity that was very tempting for intellectuals. The liberalization was short lived. In fact, it was a trick. All those who spoke out against what was happening to China were rounded up and imprisoned, perhaps between 400,000 and 700,000 people, including 10 percent of the well-educated classes. Others were branded as right-wingers and subjected to interrogation, reeducation, kicked out of their homes, and shunned.
But this was nothing compared with phase two, which was one of history’s great central-planning catastrophes. Following the collectivization of land, Mao decided to go further to dictate to the peasants what they would grow, how they would grow it, and where they would ship it, or whether they would grow anything at all as versus plunge into industry. This would become the Great Leap Forward that would generate history's most deadly famine. Peasants were grouped into groups of thousands and forced to share all things. All groups were to be economically self-sufficient. Production goals were raised ever higher.
People were moved by the hundreds of thousands from where production was high to where it was low, as a means of boosting production. They were moved too from agriculture to industry. There was a massive campaign to collect tools and transform them into industrial skill. As a means of showing hope for the future, collectives were encouraged to have huge banquets and eat everything, especially meat. This was a way of showing one's belief that the next year's harvest would be even more bountiful.
Mao had this idea that he knew how to grow grain. He proclaimed that "seeds are happiest when growing together" and so seeds were sown at five to ten times their usual density. Plants died, the soil dried out, and the salt rose to the surface. To keep birds from eating grain, sparrows were wiped out, which vastly increased the number of parasites. Erosion and flooding became endemic. Tea plantations were turned to rice fields, on grounds that tea was decadent and capitalistic. Hydraulic equipment built to service the new collective farms didn't work and lacked any replacement parts. This led Mao to put new emphasis on localized industry, which was forced to appear in the same areas as agriculture, leading to ever more chaos. Workers were drafted from one sector to another, and mandatory cuts in some sectors was balanced by mandatory high quotas in another.
In 1957, the disaster was everywhere. Workers were growing too weak even to harvest their meager crops, so they died watching the rice rot. Industry churned and churned but produced nothing of any use. The government responded by telling people that fat and proteins were unnecessary. But the famine couldn't be denied. The black-market price of rice rose 20 to 30 times. Because trade had been forbidden between collectives (self-sufficiency, you know), millions were left to starve. By 1960, the death rate soared from 15 percent to 68 percent, and the birth rate plummeted. Anyone caught hording grain was shot. Peasants found with the smallest amount were imprisoned. Fires were banned. Funerals were prohibited as wasteful.
Villagers who tried to flee from the countryside to the city were shot at the gates. Deaths from hunger reached 50 percent in some villages. Survivors boiled grass and bark to make soup and wandered the roads looking for food. Sometimes they banded together and raided houses looking for ground maize. Women were unable to conceive because of malnutrition. People in work camps were used for food experiments that led to sickness and death.
How bad did it get? 1968 an 18-year-old member of the Red Guard, Wei Jingsheng, took refuge with a family in a village of Anhui, and here he lived to write about what he saw: "We walked along beside the village…Before my eyes, among the weeds, rose up one of the scenes I had been told about, one of the banquets at which the families had swapped children in order to eat them. I could see the worried faces of the families as they chewed the flesh of other people's children. The children who were chasing butterflies in a nearby field seemed to be the reincarnation of the children devoured by their parents. I felt sorry for the children but not as sorry as I felt for their parents. What had made them swallow that human flesh, amidst the tears and grief of others – flesh that they would never have imagined tasting, even in their worst nightmares?" (The author of the passage was jailed as a traitor but his status protected him from death and he was finally released in 1997.)
How many people died in the famine of 1959–61? The low range is 20 million. The high range is 43 million. Finally in 1961, the government gave in and permitted food imports, but it was too little and too late. Some peasants were again allowed to grow crops on their own land. A few private workshops were opened. Some markets were permitted. Finally, the famine began to abate and production grew.
But then the third phase came: scapegoating. What had caused the calamity? The official reason was anything but communism, anything but Mao. And so the politically motivated round-up began again, and here we get to the very heart of the Cultural Revolution. Thousands of camps and detention centers were opened. People sent there died there. In prison, the slightest excuse was used to dispense with people – all to the good since the prisoners were a drain on the system, so far as those in charge were concerned. The largest penal system ever built was organized in a military fashion, with some camps holding as many as 50,000 people.
There was some sense in which everyone was in prison. Arrests were sweeping and indiscriminate. Everyone had to carry around a copy of Mao’s Little Red Book. To question the reason for arrest was itself evidence of disloyalty, since the state was infallible. Once arrested, the safest path was instant and frequent confession. This time, guards were forbidden from using overt violence, so interrogations would go on for hundreds of hours, and often the prisoner would die during this process. Those named in the confession were then hunted down and rounded up. Once you got through this process, you were sent to a labor camp, where you were graded according to how many hours you could work with little food. They were fed no meat nor given any sugar or oil. Labor prisoners were further controlled by the rationing of the little food they had.
The final phase of this incredible litany of criminality lasted from 1966 to 1976, and during this phase the number of killed fell dramatically to "only" one to three million. The government, now tired and in the first stages of demoralization, began to lose control, first within the labor camps and second in the countryside. And it was this weakening that led to the final and, in some ways the most vicious, of the communist periods in China's history.
The first stages of rebellion occurred in the only way permissible: people began to criticize the government for being too soft and too uncommitted to the communist goal. Ironically, this began to appear precisely as moderation became more overt in Russia. Neo-revolutionaries in the Red Guard began to criticize the Chinese communists as "Khrushchev-like reformers." As one writer put it, the guard "rose up against its own government in order to defend it."
During this period, the personality cult of Mao reached its height, with the Little Red Book achieving a mythic status. The Red Guards roamed the country in an attempt to purge the Four Old-Fashioned Things: ideas, culture, customs, and habits. The remaining temples were barricaded. Traditional opera was banned, with all costumes and sets in the Beijing Opera burned. Monks were expelled. The calendar was changed. All Christianity was banned. There were to be no pets such as cats and birds. Humiliation was the order of the day.
Thus was the Red Terror: in the capital city, there were 1,700 deaths and 84,000 people were run out. In other cities such as Shanghai, the figures were worse. A massive party purge began, with hundreds of thousands arrested and many murdered. Artists, writers, teachers, scientists, technicians: all were targets. Pogroms were visited on community after community, with Mao approving at every step as a means of eliminating every possible political rival. But underneath, the government was splintering and cracking, even as it became ever more brutal and totalist in its outlook.
Finally in 1976, Mao died. Within a few months, his closest advisers were all imprisoned. And the reform began slowly at first and then at breakneck speed. Civil liberties were restored (comparatively) and the rehabilitations began. Torturers were prosecuted. Economic controls were gradually relaxed. The economy, by virtue of human and private economic initiative, was transformed.
Having read the above, you are now in a tiny elite of people who know anything about the greatest death camp in the history of the world that China became between 1949 and 1976, an experiment in total control unlike anything other in history. Many more people today know more about China's exploding cell-phone batteries than the hundred million dead and the untold amount of suffering that occurred under communism.
When you hear about shoddy products coming from China or wheat poorly processed, imagine millions in famine, with parents swapping children to eat in order to stay alive. And what do China's critics today recommend? More control by the government. Don't tell me that we've learned anything from history. We don't even know enough about history to learn from it.
Note on sources, all of which you should buy and read in detail: "China: A Long March into Night," by Jean-Louis Margolin in The Black Book of Communism, by Stephane Courtois et al. (Harvard, 1999), pp. 463–546; Death by Government, by R.J. Rummel (Transaction, 1996); Hungry Ghosts: Mao's Secret Famine, by Jaspar Becker (Owl Books, 1998); and Mao: The Unknown Story, by Jung Chang and Jon Halliday (2006).
July 21, 2007
Llewellyn H. Rockwell, Jr. [send him mail] is president of the Ludwig von Mises Institute in Auburn, Alabama, editor of LewRockwell.com, and author of Speaking of Liberty.
China: From Death Camp to Civilization. Why very limited power to government is crucial? Mao unknown story?
This is a great question! Except I don't really understand exactly what you're getting at. Can you refine your question a bit? I can tell you that limited power is important because it prevents overbearing governments from doing things like warrantless wiretaps upon its own citizens.
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A hysteria of sorts has been generated by reports that some of China's products lack quality control. Some cat food has been tainted. A few cell-phone batteries have blown up. Cough syrup contained stuff that makes you sick. And so on. In response, the Chinese government actually executed its regulatory head of food and product safety, Zheng Xiaoyu.
How very strange this last point is! In the West, we long ago gave up the idea that these people are actually supposed to carry out their jobs and should be personally responsible for their failure to do so.
What is most striking about these product criticisms is how historically insular they appear in light of the modern history of China. This is a subject that is deeply painful, horrifying in its detail, highly instructive in helping us understand politics – and also puts into perspective these reports of recent troubles in China. It's a scandal, in fact, that few Westerners are even aware, or, if they are aware, they are not conscious, of the bloody reality that prevailed in China between the years 1949 and 1976, the years of rule by Mao Zedong
How many died as a result of persecutions and the communist policies of Mao? Perhaps you care to guess? Many people over the years have attempted to guess. But they have always underestimated. As more data rolled in during the 1980s and 1990s, and specialists have devoted themselves to investigations and estimates, the figures have become ever more reliable. And yet they remain imprecise. What kind of error term are we talking about? It could be as low as 40 million. It could be as high as 100 million – or more. In the Great Leap Forward from 1959 to 1961 alone, figures range between 20 million to 75 million. In the period before, 20 million. In the period after, tens of millions more.
As scholars in the area of mass death point out, most of us can't imagine 100 dead or 1000. Above that, we are just talking about statistics: they have no conceptual meaning for us. And there is only so much ghastly information that our brains can absorb, only so much blood we can imagine. And yet there is more to why China's communist experiment remains a hidden fact: it makes a decisive case against government power, one even more compelling than the cases of Russia or Germany in the 20th century.
The horror was foreshadowed in a bloody civil war following the Second World War. After some nine million people died, the communists emerged victorious in 1949, with Mao as the ruler. The land of Lao-Tzu (rhyme, rhythm, peace), Taoism (compassion, moderation, humility), and Confucianism (piety, social harmony, individual development) was seized by the strangest import to China ever: Marxism from Germany via Russia. It was an ideology that denied all logic, experience, economic law, property rights, and limits on the power of the state on grounds that these notions were merely bourgeois prejudices, and what we needed to transform society was a cadre with all power to transform all things.
It's bizarre to think about it, really: posters of Marx and Lenin in China, of all places, and rule by an ideology of robbery, dictatorship, and death. So spectacular has the transformation been in the last 25 years that one would hardly know that any of this ever happened, except that the Communist Party is still running the place while having tossed out the communist part.
The experiment began in the most bloody way possible following the Second World War, when all Western eyes were focused on matters at home and, to the extent there was any foreign focus, it was on Russia. The "good guys" had won the war in China, or so we were led to believe in times when communism was the fashion.
The communization of China took place in the usual three stages: purge, plan, and scapegoat. First there was the purge to bring about communism. There were guerillas to kill and land to nationalize. The churches had to be destroyed. The counterrevolutionaries had to be put down. The violence began in the country and spread later to the cities. All peasants were first divided into four classes that were considered politically acceptable: poor, semi-poor, average, and rich. Everyone else was considered a landowner and targeted for elimination. If no landowners could be found, the "rich" were often included in this group. The demonized class was ferreted out in a country-wide series of "bitterness meetings" in which people turned in their neighbors for owning property and being politically disloyal. Those who were so deemed were immediately executed along with those who sympathized with them.
The rule was that there had to be at least one person killed per village. The number killed is estimated to be between one and five million. In addition, another four to six million landowners were slaughtered for the crime of being capital owners. If anyone was suspected of hiding wealth, he or she was tortured with hot irons to confess. The families of the killed were then tortured and the graves of their ancestors looted and pillaged. What happened to the land? It was divided into tiny plots and distributed among the remaining peasants.
Then the campaign moved to the cities. The political motivations here were at the forefront, but there were also behavioral controls. Anyone who was suspected of involvement in prostitution, gambling, tax evasion, lying, fraud, opium dealing, or telling state secrets was executed as a "bandit." Official estimates put the number of dead at two million with another two million going to prison to die. Resident committees of political loyalists watched every move. A nighttime visit to another person was immediately reported and the parties involved jailed or killed. The cells in the prisons themselves grew ever smaller, with one person living in a space of about 14 inches. Some prisoners were worked to death, and anyone involved in a revolt was herded with collaborators and they were all burned.
There was industry in the cities, but those who owned and managed them were subjected to ever tighter restrictions: forced transparency, constant scrutinies, crippling taxes, and pressure to offer up their businesses for collectivization. There were many suicides among the owners of small and medium-sized businesses, who saw the writing on the wall. Joining the party provided only temporary respite, since in 1955 began the campaign against hidden counterrevolutionaries in the party itself. A principle here was that one in 10 party members was a secret traitor.
As the rivers of blood rose ever higher, Mao brought about the Hundred Flowers Campaign in two months of 1957, the legacy of which is the phrase we often hear: "let a hundred flowers bloom." People were encouraged to speak freely and give their point of view, an opportunity that was very tempting for intellectuals. The liberalization was short lived. In fact, it was a trick. All those who spoke out against what was happening to China were rounded up and imprisoned, perhaps between 400,000 and 700,000 people, including 10 percent of the well-educated classes. Others were branded as right-wingers and subjected to interrogation, reeducation, kicked out of their homes, and shunned.
But this was nothing compared with phase two, which was one of history’s great central-planning catastrophes. Following the collectivization of land, Mao decided to go further to dictate to the peasants what they would grow, how they would grow it, and where they would ship it, or whether they would grow anything at all as versus plunge into industry. This would become the Great Leap Forward that would generate history's most deadly famine. Peasants were grouped into groups of thousands and forced to share all things. All groups were to be economically self-sufficient. Production goals were raised ever higher.
People were moved by the hundreds of thousands from where production was high to where it was low, as a means of boosting production. They were moved too from agriculture to industry. There was a massive campaign to collect tools and transform them into industrial skill. As a means of showing hope for the future, collectives were encouraged to have huge banquets and eat everything, especially meat. This was a way of showing one's belief that the next year's harvest would be even more bountiful.
Mao had this idea that he knew how to grow grain. He proclaimed that "seeds are happiest when growing together" and so seeds were sown at five to ten times their usual density. Plants died, the soil dried out, and the salt rose to the surface. To keep birds from eating grain, sparrows were wiped out, which vastly increased the number of parasites. Erosion and flooding became endemic. Tea plantations were turned to rice fields, on grounds that tea was decadent and capitalistic. Hydraulic equipment built to service the new collective farms didn't work and lacked any replacement parts. This led Mao to put new emphasis on localized industry, which was forced to appear in the same areas as agriculture, leading to ever more chaos. Workers were drafted from one sector to another, and mandatory cuts in some sectors was balanced by mandatory high quotas in another.
In 1957, the disaster was everywhere. Workers were growing too weak even to harvest their meager crops, so they died watching the rice rot. Industry churned and churned but produced nothing of any use. The government responded by telling people that fat and proteins were unnecessary. But the famine couldn't be denied. The black-market price of rice rose 20 to 30 times. Because trade had been forbidden between collectives (self-sufficiency, you know), millions were left to starve. By 1960, the death rate soared from 15 percent to 68 percent, and the birth rate plummeted. Anyone caught hording grain was shot. Peasants found with the smallest amount were imprisoned. Fires were banned. Funerals were prohibited as wasteful.
Villagers who tried to flee from the countryside to the city were shot at the gates. Deaths from hunger reached 50 percent in some villages. Survivors boiled grass and bark to make soup and wandered the roads looking for food. Sometimes they banded together and raided houses looking for ground maize. Women were unable to conceive because of malnutrition. People in work camps were used for food experiments that led to sickness and death.
How bad did it get? 1968 an 18-year-old member of the Red Guard, Wei Jingsheng, took refuge with a family in a village of Anhui, and here he lived to write about what he saw: "We walked along beside the village…Before my eyes, among the weeds, rose up one of the scenes I had been told about, one of the banquets at which the families had swapped children in order to eat them. I could see the worried faces of the families as they chewed the flesh of other people's children. The children who were chasing butterflies in a nearby field seemed to be the reincarnation of the children devoured by their parents. I felt sorry for the children but not as sorry as I felt for their parents. What had made them swallow that human flesh, amidst the tears and grief of others – flesh that they would never have imagined tasting, even in their worst nightmares?" (The author of the passage was jailed as a traitor but his status protected him from death and he was finally released in 1997.)
How many people died in the famine of 1959–61? The low range is 20 million. The high range is 43 million. Finally in 1961, the government gave in and permitted food imports, but it was too little and too late. Some peasants were again allowed to grow crops on their own land. A few private workshops were opened. Some markets were permitted. Finally, the famine began to abate and production grew.
But then the third phase came: scapegoating. What had caused the calamity? The official reason was anything but communism, anything but Mao. And so the politically motivated round-up began again, and here we get to the very heart of the Cultural Revolution. Thousands of camps and detention centers were opened. People sent there died there. In prison, the slightest excuse was used to dispense with people – all to the good since the prisoners were a drain on the system, so far as those in charge were concerned. The largest penal system ever built was organized in a military fashion, with some camps holding as many as 50,000 people.
There was some sense in which everyone was in prison. Arrests were sweeping and indiscriminate. Everyone had to carry around a copy of Mao’s Little Red Book. To question the reason for arrest was itself evidence of disloyalty, since the state was infallible. Once arrested, the safest path was instant and frequent confession. This time, guards were forbidden from using overt violence, so interrogations would go on for hundreds of hours, and often the prisoner would die during this process. Those named in the confession were then hunted down and rounded up. Once you got through this process, you were sent to a labor camp, where you were graded according to how many hours you could work with little food. They were fed no meat nor given any sugar or oil. Labor prisoners were further controlled by the rationing of the little food they had.
The final phase of this incredible litany of criminality lasted from 1966 to 1976, and during this phase the number of killed fell dramatically to "only" one to three million. The government, now tired and in the first stages of demoralization, began to lose control, first within the labor camps and second in the countryside. And it was this weakening that led to the final and, in some ways the most vicious, of the communist periods in China's history.
The first stages of rebellion occurred in the only way permissible: people began to criticize the government for being too soft and too uncommitted to the communist goal. Ironically, this began to appear precisely as moderation became more overt in Russia. Neo-revolutionaries in the Red Guard began to criticize the Chinese communists as "Khrushchev-like reformers." As one writer put it, the guard "rose up against its own government in order to defend it."
During this period, the personality cult of Mao reached its height, with the Little Red Book achieving a mythic status. The Red Guards roamed the country in an attempt to purge the Four Old-Fashioned Things: ideas, culture, customs, and habits. The remaining temples were barricaded. Traditional opera was banned, with all costumes and sets in the Beijing Opera burned. Monks were expelled. The calendar was changed. All Christianity was banned. There were to be no pets such as cats and birds. Humiliation was the order of the day.
Thus was the Red Terror: in the capital city, there were 1,700 deaths and 84,000 people were run out. In other cities such as Shanghai, the figures were worse. A massive party purge began, with hundreds of thousands arrested and many murdered. Artists, writers, teachers, scientists, technicians: all were targets. Pogroms were visited on community after community, with Mao approving at every step as a means of eliminating every possible political rival. But underneath, the government was splintering and cracking, even as it became ever more brutal and totalist in its outlook.
Finally in 1976, Mao died. Within a few months, his closest advisers were all imprisoned. And the reform began slowly at first and then at breakneck speed. Civil liberties were restored (comparatively) and the rehabilitations began. Torturers were prosecuted. Economic controls were gradually relaxed. The economy, by virtue of human and private economic initiative, was transformed.
Having read the above, you are now in a tiny elite of people who know anything about the greatest death camp in the history of the world that China became between 1949 and 1976, an experiment in total control unlike anything other in history. Many more people today know more about China's exploding cell-phone batteries than the hundred million dead and the untold amount of suffering that occurred under communism.
When you hear about shoddy products coming from China or wheat poorly processed, imagine millions in famine, with parents swapping children to eat in order to stay alive. And what do China's critics today recommend? More control by the government. Don't tell me that we've learned anything from history. We don't even know enough about history to learn from it.
Note on sources, all of which you should buy and read in detail: "China: A Long March into Night," by Jean-Louis Margolin in The Black Book of Communism, by Stephane Courtois et al. (Harvard, 1999), pp. 463–546; Death by Government, by R.J. Rummel (Transaction, 1996); Hungry Ghosts: Mao's Secret Famine, by Jaspar Becker (Owl Books, 1998); and Mao: The Unknown Story, by Jung Chang and Jon Halliday (2006).
July 21, 2007
Llewellyn H. Rockwell, Jr. [send him mail] is president of the Ludwig von Mises Institute in Auburn, Alabama, editor of LewRockwell.com, and author of Speaking of Liberty.
China: From Death Camp to Civilization. Why very limited power to government is crucial? Mao unknown story?
This is a great question! Except I don't really understand exactly what you're getting at. Can you refine your question a bit? I can tell you that limited power is important because it prevents overbearing governments from doing things like warrantless wiretaps upon its own citizens.
Best Wishes!
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Why should a school cost 90million dollars to build, isn't that a lot of money for a school?
I am told a public building only laststs 20 or so years and 90million sounds outrageous. I went to school in a one room school of wood seven grades and one teacher, I was not deprived!
We read out loud in front of all seven grades it was fun. Some of us sneeked out the bathroom window and went home or into the woods for wild flowers. One time in the winter we walked cross lots home in the sleet, our clothes were froze and we had ice on our eye lashes, I still remember now I am old and I do not understand
The expence of todays foolishness. We had a crank teliphone we burned wood in the funace to keep warm. We had a pot bellied stove in school to keep us all warm the boys stoked it. We dried mittens on it. Toasted sandwiches on it
burned home work in it. We prayed in school we said the Our Father, the 23rd Psalm and the pledge to the flag after one of the apointed boys put it up the pole. the flag was put up and taken down every day. People were kind and good we lived a simple life.
Why should a school cost 90million dollars to build, isn't that a lot of money for a school?
I miss those days too, life was more simple, meaningful and fulfilling. To answer your original question, no amount of money is too much for a school. These days a slice of pizza is about $4-$, and back then, about 28 cents.
I like the prayer idea too, I'm not religious, but hearing those words but the "Our Father, Pledge of Allegiance- (I don't know the 23rd Psalm)- I will look it up now. Hearing such comforting and sensible words makes for better living and thought.
Reply:i beg to differ the statement you are not depreived
for example, why are you posting this on the
jokes and riddles section of yahoo answers
Reply:Where is the Joke? Where is the Riddle... I don't know but hey play the fiddle... Wrong catergory there a buddy
Reply:that is a lot of money
We read out loud in front of all seven grades it was fun. Some of us sneeked out the bathroom window and went home or into the woods for wild flowers. One time in the winter we walked cross lots home in the sleet, our clothes were froze and we had ice on our eye lashes, I still remember now I am old and I do not understand
The expence of todays foolishness. We had a crank teliphone we burned wood in the funace to keep warm. We had a pot bellied stove in school to keep us all warm the boys stoked it. We dried mittens on it. Toasted sandwiches on it
burned home work in it. We prayed in school we said the Our Father, the 23rd Psalm and the pledge to the flag after one of the apointed boys put it up the pole. the flag was put up and taken down every day. People were kind and good we lived a simple life.
Why should a school cost 90million dollars to build, isn't that a lot of money for a school?
I miss those days too, life was more simple, meaningful and fulfilling. To answer your original question, no amount of money is too much for a school. These days a slice of pizza is about $4-$, and back then, about 28 cents.
I like the prayer idea too, I'm not religious, but hearing those words but the "Our Father, Pledge of Allegiance- (I don't know the 23rd Psalm)- I will look it up now. Hearing such comforting and sensible words makes for better living and thought.
Reply:i beg to differ the statement you are not depreived
for example, why are you posting this on the
jokes and riddles section of yahoo answers
Reply:Where is the Joke? Where is the Riddle... I don't know but hey play the fiddle... Wrong catergory there a buddy
Reply:that is a lot of money
Drying Roses?
My boyfriend just gave me 48 beautiful red roses. I want to dry them and use them for the flower girl at our wedding. What is the best way to do this? Please give as detailed instructions as possible.
Drying Roses?
Hang them upside down. When dry I spray mine with canned hair spray so they don't break as much.
MarriedGoddess is a hateful snot, ignore her. I think it's a lovely idea with lots of sentiment behind it.
Reply:Hang them upside down in a dry area. After about 2 days spray them with aerosol hairspray. Not too much but enough to coat them. Spray every other day till they are completely dry. It will take about 2 weeks for them to be right. The hairspray helps to preserve them.
Reply:Hang them upside down to dry. Once they are dry you can pluck the petals out.
Reply:Teddy's right. Tie a ribbon around the base of the stems and hang them to dry in a dry room (not the bathroom, kitchen or outside.) Take them out of the water and start drying them before the petals start to wilt and die.
Reply:The best way to dry the roses is to tie them together, not tight, and hang them upside down someplace that is warm. You need the warmth to help dry the flowers faster. I have done this with all of the flowers that my fiance has given me. It usually takes a couple days depending on how many you hang together in a bundle and how warm of a place you decide to hang them. I hope this help.
Reply:The first two answers are one way to dry flowers.
Another way is to put them in clean cat litter in a
micro-safe pan and gently cover them with more cat
litter. Then put the pan in the microwave and heat them
for about 20 minutes at a time until completely dry.
You can go to www.duncancrafts.com for more
ideas.
Reply:Keep them tied together, upside-down...they will wilt and eventually dry out. Then you can put the petals into a plastic bag so tehy don't get everywhere. Make sure they don't get too brittle before you pick them off or else they will crumble. I would also suggest keeping them in the fridge (in the baggie of course) so they don't get too brittle.
Reply:Silica Gel is a granular material ideal for drying flowers because it draws moisture from the flower, drying it quickly therefore reducing the loss of colour and size. The end result is dried flowers which look almost as if they have been freshly picked.
Check with your local craft store.
Reply:Just tie the stems together and hang them upside down in a cool, dry place. It will take a while, but they will dry out and still maintain their shape. As far as having your flower girl use them at your wedding - probably not a good idea. Only because they are delicate once they are dried.
Reply:Gross! Why can't the flower girl get fresh, beautiful flowers? Dead, dry flowers are a HORRIBLE sign of BAD luck - I would not advise you to use them for your wedding day. Don't be cheap - just get nice fresh flowers instead.
Reply:i am a florist and you might want to check with the place of your ceremony and see what the policy is for flowerpetals, dried can make a heck of a mess (being ground into the carpets etc)
you can also pick the petals off and dry them in a low shallow box mixing them around (that is if you only want the petals) if you want them whole you can hang them iwth an elastic ( which will shrink as the stems dry) and hang them in a cool dry place
good luck
Reply:Hang them up side down to dry. This well keep the shape of the rose and it will dry
Reply:How do you want to use them for the flower girl? Do you want her to toss the petals? They will be dry, brittle and turn to dust.
Not a good idea in my opinion.
Good Luck
Drying Roses?
Hang them upside down. When dry I spray mine with canned hair spray so they don't break as much.
MarriedGoddess is a hateful snot, ignore her. I think it's a lovely idea with lots of sentiment behind it.
Reply:Hang them upside down in a dry area. After about 2 days spray them with aerosol hairspray. Not too much but enough to coat them. Spray every other day till they are completely dry. It will take about 2 weeks for them to be right. The hairspray helps to preserve them.
Reply:Hang them upside down to dry. Once they are dry you can pluck the petals out.
Reply:Teddy's right. Tie a ribbon around the base of the stems and hang them to dry in a dry room (not the bathroom, kitchen or outside.) Take them out of the water and start drying them before the petals start to wilt and die.
Reply:The best way to dry the roses is to tie them together, not tight, and hang them upside down someplace that is warm. You need the warmth to help dry the flowers faster. I have done this with all of the flowers that my fiance has given me. It usually takes a couple days depending on how many you hang together in a bundle and how warm of a place you decide to hang them. I hope this help.
Reply:The first two answers are one way to dry flowers.
Another way is to put them in clean cat litter in a
micro-safe pan and gently cover them with more cat
litter. Then put the pan in the microwave and heat them
for about 20 minutes at a time until completely dry.
You can go to www.duncancrafts.com for more
ideas.
Reply:Keep them tied together, upside-down...they will wilt and eventually dry out. Then you can put the petals into a plastic bag so tehy don't get everywhere. Make sure they don't get too brittle before you pick them off or else they will crumble. I would also suggest keeping them in the fridge (in the baggie of course) so they don't get too brittle.
Reply:Silica Gel is a granular material ideal for drying flowers because it draws moisture from the flower, drying it quickly therefore reducing the loss of colour and size. The end result is dried flowers which look almost as if they have been freshly picked.
Check with your local craft store.
Reply:Just tie the stems together and hang them upside down in a cool, dry place. It will take a while, but they will dry out and still maintain their shape. As far as having your flower girl use them at your wedding - probably not a good idea. Only because they are delicate once they are dried.
Reply:Gross! Why can't the flower girl get fresh, beautiful flowers? Dead, dry flowers are a HORRIBLE sign of BAD luck - I would not advise you to use them for your wedding day. Don't be cheap - just get nice fresh flowers instead.
Reply:i am a florist and you might want to check with the place of your ceremony and see what the policy is for flowerpetals, dried can make a heck of a mess (being ground into the carpets etc)
you can also pick the petals off and dry them in a low shallow box mixing them around (that is if you only want the petals) if you want them whole you can hang them iwth an elastic ( which will shrink as the stems dry) and hang them in a cool dry place
good luck
Reply:Hang them up side down to dry. This well keep the shape of the rose and it will dry
Reply:How do you want to use them for the flower girl? Do you want her to toss the petals? They will be dry, brittle and turn to dust.
Not a good idea in my opinion.
Good Luck
After repotting and fertilizing a gardenia plant the leaves are drying out and dying, how do i save it?
For 2 months I had waterted the plant once a week and had several flowers bloom. In the last few weeks the plant was dropping flower buds so researched and thought I may need to improve the acidity and drainage of the soil. I tried feeding it acidic plant food according to the package directions. The plant leaves began drooping the next day. I then repotted it into more acidic soil and better drainage. That was a week ago. The leaves have lost all their glossiness and have dried out. Is there anything I can do to bring the plant back to health?
After repotting and fertilizing a gardenia plant the leaves are drying out and dying, how do i save it?
I hope this is not too late. You have to repot your gardenia your soil is too acidic which inhibits the growth of new roots.After repotting spray your plant with a rootgrowth hormone. You can use any vitamine B complex disolved in water. Goodluck!
Reply:My reference( see below) says Gardenias are very temperamental, requiring a 60 - 65'F night temperature for buds to form and the day temperature should be 10'F higher. A even temperature and careful watering are required to prevent the buds falling and soft water must be used to prevent the foliage turning yellow. If your are in a hard-water area, use rain-water, but in all cases, leave it to stand for a few hours before use, so it does not give the plant a chill. Draughts are also something to be avoided as well as direct midday sun in summer, and mist the leaves frequently.
Only needs to be repotted every two years or so.
After repotting and fertilizing a gardenia plant the leaves are drying out and dying, how do i save it?
I hope this is not too late. You have to repot your gardenia your soil is too acidic which inhibits the growth of new roots.After repotting spray your plant with a rootgrowth hormone. You can use any vitamine B complex disolved in water. Goodluck!
Reply:My reference( see below) says Gardenias are very temperamental, requiring a 60 - 65'F night temperature for buds to form and the day temperature should be 10'F higher. A even temperature and careful watering are required to prevent the buds falling and soft water must be used to prevent the foliage turning yellow. If your are in a hard-water area, use rain-water, but in all cases, leave it to stand for a few hours before use, so it does not give the plant a chill. Draughts are also something to be avoided as well as direct midday sun in summer, and mist the leaves frequently.
Only needs to be repotted every two years or so.
Wildflower Project?
I am doing a wildflower project, and I have to collect 10 flowers. I have collected them and they are drying right now. Where should I put them after for showing when I turn it in? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Wildflower Project?
You can make a "herbarium": You mount your specimen on paper and label them.
Here you find several more or less illustrated hints. The first one explains it in an easy way, the others give more details:
http://www.rbg.ca/cbcn/en/cbcn4kids/kid_...
http://www.hometrainingtools.com/article...
http://www.funsci.com/fun3_en/herb/herb....
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Wildflower Project?
You can make a "herbarium": You mount your specimen on paper and label them.
Here you find several more or less illustrated hints. The first one explains it in an easy way, the others give more details:
http://www.rbg.ca/cbcn/en/cbcn4kids/kid_...
http://www.hometrainingtools.com/article...
http://www.funsci.com/fun3_en/herb/herb....
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I'm looking for the name of the artist, the name of the song, and the name of the album that it's on.?
I know some of the lyrics to be: "In the dry dusty desert, a wild flower grows" I think the artist was Jerry Wallace but I'm not certain, I would like to add this song to my music library, but I need all the information I can find about it, especially The name, the artist, and the album. This song was popular on the country charts in the early to mid 70's
I'm looking for the name of the artist, the name of the song, and the name of the album that it's on.?
If You Leave Me Tonight I'll Cry
http://www.allmusic.com/cg/amg.dll?p=amg...
Reply:Wrong answer, that wasn't it. Report It
Reply:You have enough info to google this. Try it. You might like it. Unless you just like having someone else do it for you, of course. Good luck with that.
I'm looking for the name of the artist, the name of the song, and the name of the album that it's on.?
If You Leave Me Tonight I'll Cry
http://www.allmusic.com/cg/amg.dll?p=amg...
Reply:Wrong answer, that wasn't it. Report It
Reply:You have enough info to google this. Try it. You might like it. Unless you just like having someone else do it for you, of course. Good luck with that.
What do i do if my gf keeps thinking about taking a break?
ok its like this my gf of 7 months (im only in 10th grade) is really busy with modeling class and voice lessons, so she's really weighted down with everything, so she keeps asking if we need to take a break cuz she's got to much going on. ok i buy it. also we are always getting in fights, and she's always mad at me, (dont get me wrong i love her and when im with her it feels unbelievable, sry for the spelling), but now im starting to get a little mad at her, like when a secret admirerer sends her stuff and she down talks me and says i never give her flowers, but i did spend 64 hours give or take on a jewelry box for her, im always trying to out do my self and the reason i havent given her flowers is cuz im growing my own and they just bloomed. but this week end she stood me up three times to go and hang out with her friends while im left high and dry because i cancled all my plans. and i adressed this and now she is considerind breaking up with me. wat do i do, she is every thing to me
What do i do if my gf keeps thinking about taking a break?
This is coming from a guy,
Dude, Face it, I'm 27 years old and I always wnated a girlfriend when i was in high school but they never worked out, It really got me down a times,
But today i look back and think how meaningless those relationships are when your like 15 or 16, virtually nobody i know who was together then is together now.
I don't mena to diss your girl, But she sounds REALLY immature, she got all pissed cause you didin't get her flowers, that's stupid!!! Let her F****N "secret admirer" get her what she wants then.
She leaves you high and dry for her friends, yo say something and she contemplates breaking up.
Do what you want dude, but remember this "love cannot be forced upon anyone"
If you want my honest opinion, She suggests breaking up with her, I'd break up with her, And if she does like you, Whaich I'm going to be straight up with ya I think she's just using you, Wait till she comes and begs for forgivness, Otherwise dude your young and You'll have an opportunity at PLENTY of chicks out there.
Reply:if she keeps talking about taking a break, tell her she's got it. what's the point of wasting YOUR time playing games ya know? I think you deserve better than that.
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im mee if u doo [ leeemarieex3 ]
Reply:Get her all the soughts of presents she likes. Tell her how much you love her and how much taken a break will break your heart. If she insists, cry over it.
Reply:Well sweetie, it sounds to me like you are doing everything right, it's her that has the problem! Take it from a woman, you are very considerate, and that's the first step to a good relationship. Unfortunately, some young women aren't mature enough to appreciate this in a man, if ever! We all get our hearts broke, it's a fact of life. I'm sorry that you are going through this, but believe me when I say that you will be better off without her!
Reply:LET HER TAKE ONE. SHE MAY NEED TIME TO HERSELF
Reply:you may have to go with it and look at the link below.
Reply:Ok huni, ive beent his girlfriend before.. im still am this girlfriend. i sugest you have her some space. let her take her "break" with you, but send her flowers with cards attached, suprise her with little trips... when i was doughting my relationship i told my boyfriend we needed to take a break. well the next night he never called me never came to see me i didnt hear from him (wich is un normal because i saw him or talked to him every night for a year) well the next morning he came over early woke me up and took me to eat... we drove for probly 3 hours and he wouldnt tell me where we were going... finally we got there, he took me to the grand canyon! the night before he went there and found a perfect spot that he could sit me down in and then he started tellin me how much he cares and aprichiates me... and respects my wish's if i would like to take a break. by the time he got done expressing his feelings for me i was so happy i didnt want the break any more. so try something sper of the moment. it doesnt have to be big, write poems give her a flower. do the whole home movies and such. make her feel special and apprichiated. things will look up for the two of you! good luck!
Reply:listen. if anyone does that to someone, its considered shady. you dont ditch, you make plans and stick to them. if you don't have time and need a break then you shouldn't even be in a relationship in the first place. you sound like you know how to have a relationship and i don't think this one is right for you. find someone who isnt as needy [sry but your in 10th grade, i didnt even know what a job was, and me wanting flowers, ha, i was just happy with a kiss, and ps ive been with my boyfriend since tenth grade and i am now happy with him as a sophmore in college, 4yrs later] don't take that sht from her.
Reply:Honestly? It sounds kinda one sided. She seems to have no respect or consideration for you. She keeps standing you up! I think that when she asks you if you think you 2 need a break, she's actually telling you that SHE wants to take one. You guys need to have a serious discussion about this.
Reply:SHE DOESN'T WANNA BE WITH YOU, BUT THEN SHE DOES. SHE'S CONFUSED AND YOU SHOULD SHOW HER THAT YOU MOVED BECAUSE THEN SHE WILL COME BACK.
What do i do if my gf keeps thinking about taking a break?
This is coming from a guy,
Dude, Face it, I'm 27 years old and I always wnated a girlfriend when i was in high school but they never worked out, It really got me down a times,
But today i look back and think how meaningless those relationships are when your like 15 or 16, virtually nobody i know who was together then is together now.
I don't mena to diss your girl, But she sounds REALLY immature, she got all pissed cause you didin't get her flowers, that's stupid!!! Let her F****N "secret admirer" get her what she wants then.
She leaves you high and dry for her friends, yo say something and she contemplates breaking up.
Do what you want dude, but remember this "love cannot be forced upon anyone"
If you want my honest opinion, She suggests breaking up with her, I'd break up with her, And if she does like you, Whaich I'm going to be straight up with ya I think she's just using you, Wait till she comes and begs for forgivness, Otherwise dude your young and You'll have an opportunity at PLENTY of chicks out there.
Reply:if she keeps talking about taking a break, tell her she's got it. what's the point of wasting YOUR time playing games ya know? I think you deserve better than that.
Reply:doo you have an aim sn ?
im mee if u doo [ leeemarieex3 ]
Reply:Get her all the soughts of presents she likes. Tell her how much you love her and how much taken a break will break your heart. If she insists, cry over it.
Reply:Well sweetie, it sounds to me like you are doing everything right, it's her that has the problem! Take it from a woman, you are very considerate, and that's the first step to a good relationship. Unfortunately, some young women aren't mature enough to appreciate this in a man, if ever! We all get our hearts broke, it's a fact of life. I'm sorry that you are going through this, but believe me when I say that you will be better off without her!
Reply:LET HER TAKE ONE. SHE MAY NEED TIME TO HERSELF
Reply:you may have to go with it and look at the link below.
Reply:Ok huni, ive beent his girlfriend before.. im still am this girlfriend. i sugest you have her some space. let her take her "break" with you, but send her flowers with cards attached, suprise her with little trips... when i was doughting my relationship i told my boyfriend we needed to take a break. well the next night he never called me never came to see me i didnt hear from him (wich is un normal because i saw him or talked to him every night for a year) well the next morning he came over early woke me up and took me to eat... we drove for probly 3 hours and he wouldnt tell me where we were going... finally we got there, he took me to the grand canyon! the night before he went there and found a perfect spot that he could sit me down in and then he started tellin me how much he cares and aprichiates me... and respects my wish's if i would like to take a break. by the time he got done expressing his feelings for me i was so happy i didnt want the break any more. so try something sper of the moment. it doesnt have to be big, write poems give her a flower. do the whole home movies and such. make her feel special and apprichiated. things will look up for the two of you! good luck!
Reply:listen. if anyone does that to someone, its considered shady. you dont ditch, you make plans and stick to them. if you don't have time and need a break then you shouldn't even be in a relationship in the first place. you sound like you know how to have a relationship and i don't think this one is right for you. find someone who isnt as needy [sry but your in 10th grade, i didnt even know what a job was, and me wanting flowers, ha, i was just happy with a kiss, and ps ive been with my boyfriend since tenth grade and i am now happy with him as a sophmore in college, 4yrs later] don't take that sht from her.
Reply:Honestly? It sounds kinda one sided. She seems to have no respect or consideration for you. She keeps standing you up! I think that when she asks you if you think you 2 need a break, she's actually telling you that SHE wants to take one. You guys need to have a serious discussion about this.
Reply:SHE DOESN'T WANNA BE WITH YOU, BUT THEN SHE DOES. SHE'S CONFUSED AND YOU SHOULD SHOW HER THAT YOU MOVED BECAUSE THEN SHE WILL COME BACK.
Best smelling shampoo?
I am looking for a great-smelling shampoo. I used Herbal Essences Moisturizing conditioner sometimes (it smells ok) but I haven't found a really nice smelling shampoo. I would love one that is fruity (strawberries, etc) or smells like flowers.
But i don't want something that fades quickly. i don't blow dry or straighten my hair that much.
What is your fave smelling shampoo?
Best smelling shampoo?
Garnier Fructis... smells like FRUIT.
I also use Herbal Essences Moisturizing conditioner, I like that too. The shampoo is even more fragrant.
Go to bath and body works, they have a lot of scented shampoos that make your hair really pretty and voluminous too. My friends love to use their things.
Reply:Suave!
There was this girl I used to know and she used that brand of shampoo. I always new when she was around because I could smell the fruit. Hehe.
http://www.suave.com/
Check it out ^^
Reply:Victorias secret "very sexy" shampoo smells V. good, like flowers...
Reply:herbal essences
Reply:Definitely Pantene Ice Shine!
Reply:PANTENE :]
Reply:Garnier Fructis
Reply:DOVE =]
it like never fades lol
Reply:pantene
But i don't want something that fades quickly. i don't blow dry or straighten my hair that much.
What is your fave smelling shampoo?
Best smelling shampoo?
Garnier Fructis... smells like FRUIT.
I also use Herbal Essences Moisturizing conditioner, I like that too. The shampoo is even more fragrant.
Go to bath and body works, they have a lot of scented shampoos that make your hair really pretty and voluminous too. My friends love to use their things.
Reply:Suave!
There was this girl I used to know and she used that brand of shampoo. I always new when she was around because I could smell the fruit. Hehe.
http://www.suave.com/
Check it out ^^
Reply:Victorias secret "very sexy" shampoo smells V. good, like flowers...
Reply:herbal essences
Reply:Definitely Pantene Ice Shine!
Reply:PANTENE :]
Reply:Garnier Fructis
Reply:DOVE =]
it like never fades lol
Reply:pantene
Why can the bodies fly?
Atomism is a way in the crowded world today
little dancing tender child why have all your dreams gone by
I took them in a tower where all the big black flowers
died in a dreadful horror when they heard the ghastly hour
Why can the bodies fly without a laugh
I am lost in darkest woods without a moon
Starless night, deathful night ghosts are walking in the tropics
like the shadows making terror on the morrow of the sun
I pushed them in a tomb where all the godly mob dried of insolently gush cause everybody was a lush
Black flowers thrown in my way of power, crushing the diverted crowd
Insight look in an old fairy book teach you more of devil's brain
catalistic thoughts in a poet's mind cull the flowers of my time
Why can the bodies fly?
(why cant we get high)
they say it makes our mind frie,why cant we get high.
some say it makes time fly ,why cant we get high.
does it makes our mind tick or our hearts click.
why cant we get high ,i as u why we cant get high,.cause with this cig in my hand i fell like a man.
black smoke aint no joke ,
clowning me cause i dont smoke
so i as u why,we cant get high
(snaps fingers)
Reply:Very eerie and depressing; nevertheless, another great work, Baxter... Thanks...
Reply:cause they dont have wings?
Reply:wow
Reply:Because they are in 'dream realm' where anything is possible?
Or the pits of hell, forever lost and yearning for a "tomb"?
Reply:pretty good stuff,there.
Reply:wish i was that creative
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little dancing tender child why have all your dreams gone by
I took them in a tower where all the big black flowers
died in a dreadful horror when they heard the ghastly hour
Why can the bodies fly without a laugh
I am lost in darkest woods without a moon
Starless night, deathful night ghosts are walking in the tropics
like the shadows making terror on the morrow of the sun
I pushed them in a tomb where all the godly mob dried of insolently gush cause everybody was a lush
Black flowers thrown in my way of power, crushing the diverted crowd
Insight look in an old fairy book teach you more of devil's brain
catalistic thoughts in a poet's mind cull the flowers of my time
Why can the bodies fly?
(why cant we get high)
they say it makes our mind frie,why cant we get high.
some say it makes time fly ,why cant we get high.
does it makes our mind tick or our hearts click.
why cant we get high ,i as u why we cant get high,.cause with this cig in my hand i fell like a man.
black smoke aint no joke ,
clowning me cause i dont smoke
so i as u why,we cant get high
(snaps fingers)
Reply:Very eerie and depressing; nevertheless, another great work, Baxter... Thanks...
Reply:cause they dont have wings?
Reply:wow
Reply:Because they are in 'dream realm' where anything is possible?
Or the pits of hell, forever lost and yearning for a "tomb"?
Reply:pretty good stuff,there.
Reply:wish i was that creative
wide children shoes
Cosmos - Sonata Mix?
Ok, If you have any Cosmos where did you plant yours? I know that they strive on sun and dry soil. I also noticed that they can get pretty tall. Do they tend to spread and look messy? The flowers are very pretty but the foilage looks like it can be messy.
Cosmos - Sonata Mix?
cosmos are good plants to put into the back of a landscaping area....the flowers are bright spots of happiness but the plants can grow over 3 feet...as far as the foliage is concerned...cosmos are very airy plants and the foliage and the proper placement of these plants diminish any messiness you may encounter....
Reply:I plant mine on the east side of the house for wind protection. I usually plant shorter varieties but this is the variety I have this year. never have had any trouble with them being messy although I agree its hard to tell from the pictures
Cosmos - Sonata Mix?
cosmos are good plants to put into the back of a landscaping area....the flowers are bright spots of happiness but the plants can grow over 3 feet...as far as the foliage is concerned...cosmos are very airy plants and the foliage and the proper placement of these plants diminish any messiness you may encounter....
Reply:I plant mine on the east side of the house for wind protection. I usually plant shorter varieties but this is the variety I have this year. never have had any trouble with them being messy although I agree its hard to tell from the pictures
Are you real men still out there ...?
Are there any men who still quote poetry to their gf and give dem beautiful flowers etc or are the dry,dead impassionate onmes left?
oh and does anyone know the cell no of shakespears great great grandson?
Are you real men still out there ...?
I not only quote poetry to my special lady;I write it!
You know? It is one thing to quote a Shakespearean sonnet or Lord Byron's "She Walks in Beauty," or I have come to like his poem "Maid of Athens," especially for the passage:
"By thy wild eyes like the roe,zoe mu sas agapo!"
It is one thing to quote Byron or Keats or Shelley or Shakespeare or Yeats, or some of the really beautiful things by Emily Dickinson or e.e. cummings, but it is an altogether different thing for me to give her a poem that I have written, because each person is different and each person is special and each person is unique and Neither Shakespeare nor Yeats or any of the others ever met my lady so I feel that there might be something missing there because they cannot really address what is so unique and special and incredible about her, but I can at least try, even if I am not an immortal bard.
Flowers? All the time, all different kinds;not just the florist shop variety but flowers I've grown myself or sometimes I'll encounter a really lovely wildflower in the most unexpected and unusual places;sometimes I'll pick it and surprise her with it.Sometimes I will leave it there and just take a picture of it and make a "Just to Say I Love YOu" card out of it;I don't pick the wildflower because I don't want to disrupt nature.I want maybe that wildflower to generate others like itself,which it might not do if I take it away......
As to your question:Don't put people into categories,men,women,whomeever.
Don't dwell on negative experiences.
And more importantly:Don't depend on other people,men,women,whomever, don't depend on other people for your happiness.
Develop yourself;live,grow,learn,enjoy the wonders of living and maybe, like me,when you least expect it,you will find somebody worthy of you.
Reply:I like singing some Bob Marley...
...I'm very passionate.
Poetry, is kind of, a natural expressive ability...I'd probably already be writing (or thinking) poetry about her, if I liked her enough
Reply:I would have said no way two years ago but theres a guy I know quite well in my sixth form who showed me the poetry he had wrote for his gf and he told me how she was shocked when he brought her flowers. However this guy has totally changed because of the ppl he is with now and although he probably still does that kinda thing, he's not what I would call a gentlemen - having about seven gf's since he's been at our school!!! All didn't end that well :(
Can't answer next question lol!
Reply:no, i dont know the cell no of shakespears great grandson.. is there already a cellfon then?
Reply:that depends on what kind of poetry do you mean.. many many guys i know LOVE song lyrics. "simple man" from shinedown, "never too late" from TDG,..."oops i did it again" fom britney spears(!) are all considered poetry.. so if you want a guy to quote their songs or other songs he loves he'll be glad to.. or even better!, sing to you and rock on (if he knows how to play the guitar). my friend writes his own songs, plays and records (so awsome). so if you like these kinds of guys there are PLENTY of them :))look for the musicians! they are THE best! they'll know how to quote, how to play/sing and the'll write a song for you :D
but if you like guys that quote from shakespere books my advice is to go to the library and check out the guys @the poetry section.. i didn't notice that many of them.
as far as flowers..any guy can give you that.. even the horniest ones know that to get a girl you have to give her flowers XD i know...not funny but really there are a good # of guys who will give you some.
Reply:You are asking allot,but at the same time I love to cater to women(flowers,candy,diamonds)I think women are the most beautiful creation god has done,your body's your minds,everything.To answer your ? yes some of those men are out there.I try the best I can,but sometimes it just gets to darn expensive.
oh and does anyone know the cell no of shakespears great great grandson?
Are you real men still out there ...?
I not only quote poetry to my special lady;I write it!
You know? It is one thing to quote a Shakespearean sonnet or Lord Byron's "She Walks in Beauty," or I have come to like his poem "Maid of Athens," especially for the passage:
"By thy wild eyes like the roe,zoe mu sas agapo!"
It is one thing to quote Byron or Keats or Shelley or Shakespeare or Yeats, or some of the really beautiful things by Emily Dickinson or e.e. cummings, but it is an altogether different thing for me to give her a poem that I have written, because each person is different and each person is special and each person is unique and Neither Shakespeare nor Yeats or any of the others ever met my lady so I feel that there might be something missing there because they cannot really address what is so unique and special and incredible about her, but I can at least try, even if I am not an immortal bard.
Flowers? All the time, all different kinds;not just the florist shop variety but flowers I've grown myself or sometimes I'll encounter a really lovely wildflower in the most unexpected and unusual places;sometimes I'll pick it and surprise her with it.Sometimes I will leave it there and just take a picture of it and make a "Just to Say I Love YOu" card out of it;I don't pick the wildflower because I don't want to disrupt nature.I want maybe that wildflower to generate others like itself,which it might not do if I take it away......
As to your question:Don't put people into categories,men,women,whomeever.
Don't dwell on negative experiences.
And more importantly:Don't depend on other people,men,women,whomever, don't depend on other people for your happiness.
Develop yourself;live,grow,learn,enjoy the wonders of living and maybe, like me,when you least expect it,you will find somebody worthy of you.
Reply:I like singing some Bob Marley...
...I'm very passionate.
Poetry, is kind of, a natural expressive ability...I'd probably already be writing (or thinking) poetry about her, if I liked her enough
Reply:I would have said no way two years ago but theres a guy I know quite well in my sixth form who showed me the poetry he had wrote for his gf and he told me how she was shocked when he brought her flowers. However this guy has totally changed because of the ppl he is with now and although he probably still does that kinda thing, he's not what I would call a gentlemen - having about seven gf's since he's been at our school!!! All didn't end that well :(
Can't answer next question lol!
Reply:no, i dont know the cell no of shakespears great grandson.. is there already a cellfon then?
Reply:that depends on what kind of poetry do you mean.. many many guys i know LOVE song lyrics. "simple man" from shinedown, "never too late" from TDG,..."oops i did it again" fom britney spears(!) are all considered poetry.. so if you want a guy to quote their songs or other songs he loves he'll be glad to.. or even better!, sing to you and rock on (if he knows how to play the guitar). my friend writes his own songs, plays and records (so awsome). so if you like these kinds of guys there are PLENTY of them :))look for the musicians! they are THE best! they'll know how to quote, how to play/sing and the'll write a song for you :D
but if you like guys that quote from shakespere books my advice is to go to the library and check out the guys @the poetry section.. i didn't notice that many of them.
as far as flowers..any guy can give you that.. even the horniest ones know that to get a girl you have to give her flowers XD i know...not funny but really there are a good # of guys who will give you some.
Reply:You are asking allot,but at the same time I love to cater to women(flowers,candy,diamonds)I think women are the most beautiful creation god has done,your body's your minds,everything.To answer your ? yes some of those men are out there.I try the best I can,but sometimes it just gets to darn expensive.
Does my laptop still have a chance?!?
I know how silly this sounds, but my cat happened to knock over a vase of flowers/water that was close to my laptop, and water got all over my computer. I wiped it up, and didn't realize that my computer was sitting in a puddle of water until i came back from the gym about an hour later. I let it dry for 24 hours and completely wiped up my computer, but of course my computer is all messed up still. Any suggestions on where i can go to get this fixed (geek squad?), or do i just need a whole new computer now? I really can't afford a new computer at the moment. Where should i go, and approximately how much might it cost to fix all that water damage and get my computer up and running again? It turns on and everything still, just the keys are messed up, and it won't let me get past the set-up screen. This sucks!! Help please!
Does my laptop still have a chance?!?
do you still have the warranty?? if you do just go back to where you bought it and maybe they will fix it for you... if you dont i suggest you get fixed at a good reliable computer store, and if its really broken and the cant be fixed then i'm afraid you have to get a new one.... :(
Reply:May be only the keyboard is damaged. So go ahead and tell a computer repair shop that your keyboard has gone bad. Get it rectified and then check. If everything works fine then no need to buy a new one. I think you Laptop vendor service centre (like Compaq and HP service centre) should be of great help in this regard.
Reply:I work for geek squad. What will happen is they will send it out to service. If you tell them there was water spilled on it they will not send it out. If you don't mention the water damage they will send it out to Geek Squad City in kentucky and they will open the pc and see water damage inside and they will automatically refuse to repair under most warrantys. If you don't have accidental damage warranty then this one is trash. Just from what I send out normally this one will cost well over $500. Plus they will make you pay for shipping regardless if you get it repaired.
Does my laptop still have a chance?!?
do you still have the warranty?? if you do just go back to where you bought it and maybe they will fix it for you... if you dont i suggest you get fixed at a good reliable computer store, and if its really broken and the cant be fixed then i'm afraid you have to get a new one.... :(
Reply:May be only the keyboard is damaged. So go ahead and tell a computer repair shop that your keyboard has gone bad. Get it rectified and then check. If everything works fine then no need to buy a new one. I think you Laptop vendor service centre (like Compaq and HP service centre) should be of great help in this regard.
Reply:I work for geek squad. What will happen is they will send it out to service. If you tell them there was water spilled on it they will not send it out. If you don't mention the water damage they will send it out to Geek Squad City in kentucky and they will open the pc and see water damage inside and they will automatically refuse to repair under most warrantys. If you don't have accidental damage warranty then this one is trash. Just from what I send out normally this one will cost well over $500. Plus they will make you pay for shipping regardless if you get it repaired.
Would you like to come to the funeral?
Today friends, we are mouning the loss of "Customer Service".
He is survived by the only full service gas station in Kansas, and a dry cleaner in New Jersey that still delivers.
His brother, "Doctors who make housecalls" passed away some decades ago.
In lieu of flowers, mourners are requested to deliver milk.
Would you like to come to the funeral?
I'm sorry to hear of his demise. I bet he had a cousin called Telephone Operator, too,didn't he? Wonder if she'll be at the funeral.
Reply:I'm his cousin Report It
Reply:sure
Reply:yes i would
Reply:sure sorry for the loss just tell me where
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He is survived by the only full service gas station in Kansas, and a dry cleaner in New Jersey that still delivers.
His brother, "Doctors who make housecalls" passed away some decades ago.
In lieu of flowers, mourners are requested to deliver milk.
Would you like to come to the funeral?
I'm sorry to hear of his demise. I bet he had a cousin called Telephone Operator, too,didn't he? Wonder if she'll be at the funeral.
Reply:I'm his cousin Report It
Reply:sure
Reply:yes i would
Reply:sure sorry for the loss just tell me where
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Save/Preserve Daisies?
Daisies are my favorite flower ever. I have been pretty sick lately and today my sweet boyfriend brought me some daisies to cheer me up and help me feel better. I want so much to keep them, but my experience with daisies in the past has not turned out well. I have tried drying, pressing and even the extreme of lamenating them. I want to keep them so badly. I was thinking.... would mod podge work? Do you think it would work in helping to maintain the flowers color? Or would it just kill the little flowers? Any help, tips and tricks would be appreciated. Ive heard of some silica... but it changes the flowers color... and I wish to keep it as close to normal as possible...
Save/Preserve Daisies?
i love pressing flowers in between pages of books...mod podge will make the petals wilt and turn yellow...there is no way to keep the flowers as they are. flowers fade..it's sad and sweet, they are beautiful but never last. you just need to accept that anyway you try and perserve them they will change..that's super sweet of your boyfriend, i suggest you just take a picture of them and put it in a frame..
Reply:Sorry to read you've been ill.
Silica crystals work well...you can get boxes or cans of these at hobby %26amp; craft shops like "Michael's." Or you can buy pure borax powder at your grocery store - (20-mule-team brand is what I've used - or they can order it for you.
Procedure:
1 - Pour crystals or powder into a large covered cake or cookie tin, or large plastic container with a lid.to the halfway mark.
2 - Cut all but about an inch of stem off each daisy. Using the remaining stems as handle, place each daisy upside-down in the crystals or borax; then completely cover with more crystals or powder. Cover the container.
3 - In about one week, check to see how dry one daisy is; they should all be pretty crisp at this point; if not make sure each blossom is covered and leave or another week.
4 - When you are sure each blossom is dry, carefully remove from medium using the stem as a handle. Using a small paint brush, remove grains of medium from blossom head.
5 - You can insert fine florist wire (also at the craft store) into the blossom head to make a stem. You can gather several of the wired blossoms and tape the wires with green or brown florist tape (also available at the craft shop) to make a small bouquet. Or you can tape each individual stem and make a large permanent bouquet,
*You shouldn't have problems with the color even if these are the dyed "Crazy Daisies."
The dried (not artificial) flowers available in stores - usually from Hollans and other parts of Europe - are prepared by some kind of a vacuum extract (of water) that is propritory knowledge (a trade secret)! So, our dried flowers will never look as good as theirs.
Reply:You could press them and then mod podge them. You cannot do this until the flowers are dried though. You could also press them between glass after they are pressed and dried. Try Martha Stewart for some ideas too.
Save/Preserve Daisies?
i love pressing flowers in between pages of books...mod podge will make the petals wilt and turn yellow...there is no way to keep the flowers as they are. flowers fade..it's sad and sweet, they are beautiful but never last. you just need to accept that anyway you try and perserve them they will change..that's super sweet of your boyfriend, i suggest you just take a picture of them and put it in a frame..
Reply:Sorry to read you've been ill.
Silica crystals work well...you can get boxes or cans of these at hobby %26amp; craft shops like "Michael's." Or you can buy pure borax powder at your grocery store - (20-mule-team brand is what I've used - or they can order it for you.
Procedure:
1 - Pour crystals or powder into a large covered cake or cookie tin, or large plastic container with a lid.to the halfway mark.
2 - Cut all but about an inch of stem off each daisy. Using the remaining stems as handle, place each daisy upside-down in the crystals or borax; then completely cover with more crystals or powder. Cover the container.
3 - In about one week, check to see how dry one daisy is; they should all be pretty crisp at this point; if not make sure each blossom is covered and leave or another week.
4 - When you are sure each blossom is dry, carefully remove from medium using the stem as a handle. Using a small paint brush, remove grains of medium from blossom head.
5 - You can insert fine florist wire (also at the craft store) into the blossom head to make a stem. You can gather several of the wired blossoms and tape the wires with green or brown florist tape (also available at the craft shop) to make a small bouquet. Or you can tape each individual stem and make a large permanent bouquet,
*You shouldn't have problems with the color even if these are the dyed "Crazy Daisies."
The dried (not artificial) flowers available in stores - usually from Hollans and other parts of Europe - are prepared by some kind of a vacuum extract (of water) that is propritory knowledge (a trade secret)! So, our dried flowers will never look as good as theirs.
Reply:You could press them and then mod podge them. You cannot do this until the flowers are dried though. You could also press them between glass after they are pressed and dried. Try Martha Stewart for some ideas too.
I throw his roses into the trash in front of him? But should I?
My bf came to NY to see me from MD, and he said he got a surprise for. He brough out a dozen of roses from his suitcase and they were a little withered and some petals were already dried up at the end of some flowers.
I was so angry I took the the rose and throw them in to the trash can in front of him.
What made me so angry is that he see the roses are dead and he still buys them for me. It so thoughless, its like he buying me rose because its a progress or chores, not because he cares.
Am I too irrational? maybe I am.
We been together for 3 valentines already, and this is the first time he remembers its valentine. I really looked forward to spending this nice day together, and i planned a lot of thing, but this really puts it off to a bad start for us.
Lady: would you be angry if you receive dead looking roses from your valentine? And what would you have done?
Guys, how would you have reacted if you were my bf?
THanks for your help
I throw his roses into the trash in front of him? But should I?
oh, the poor roses
Reply:I think I would have behaved more charitable. YOU destroyed Valentines day because you couldn't control yourself. Yes, dead flowers are upsetting, but to throw a hissy fit is never appropriate.
I've received some pretty thoughtless gifts from my husband and I do the same thing every time. "Thank you, dear." *forced smile* Then a week or so later I talk to him about his poor choices.
Reply:He remembered! Throwing them away was wrong. How hurtful! My husband brings me flowers every other week. Sometimes money is tight and he buy's the cleaneranced flowers that are withering with some petals dried....
Be thankful your boyfriend tried.
The whole meaning of receiving something is- the thought the person giving- is putting into the idea.
You cannot take back your actions or words but you can apologize and let him know how selfish you were being and MAKE it up to him by putting thought into your apology.
This is my opinion
Reply:I love "Homer S's" answer.
You were over reacting, and ungrateful and he deserves someone who will respect him.
Reply:Firstly, if my bf came to another state to see me, I'd be thrilled to see him. If he brought me wilted flowers, he STILL CAME TO ANOTHER STATE TO SEE ME!!! It would be forgivable.
You completely overreacted!
To answer your other questions, I personally wouldn't be angry if I got dead roses for valentines (then again I kinda like dead roses).
And If I were in your bf's shoes, I would have smacked you and went right back home. He tried to do something nice for you, and you just threw his gift away! He probably bought them at a nice flower store in MD and they wilted on the trip!
Reply:Well that was mean of him to give you dead roses but considering he had them in his suitcase I doubt they were dead when he bought them. I think you over reacted a tad....
try to salvage the rest of the day... be happy you got to spend the day together not what he bought you.
Reply:THEY WERE IN HIS SUITCASE!!!
HE BOUGHT THEM FRESH!!!
THEY WITHERED ON THE TRIP FROM NY TO MD!!!
GIVE HIM A BREAK!!!
Reply:They probably weren't dead when he bought them. I don't know why he would put them in his suitcase though (I'm guessing he flew? .. but still).
Either way, it was thoughtful of him. Guys do strange things. It amazes me that men and women are even within the same phylum, being as different as we are.
Sounds like he means well .. but that he may lose his head if it weren't attached sometimes.
I wouldn't be to hard on him. I hope you didn't hurt his feelings by throwing them in the trash like that. Kind of the same thing like if, you cooked him dinner, burnt it accidentally but offered it to him anyways, and he said it's gross and chucked it in the garbage.
As far as your feelings getting hurt by the withered flowers, I understand, and can see where you're coming from. Sometimes us women can be really expectant %26amp; irrational, and sometimes it's just the way we feel. ...... Here's something I always try to remember .. You can't take back your actions, but you can always think twice first. Silly maybe, but it works to keep that in mind.
Best wishes!! :) %26amp; Happy Valentines Day!!
Reply:How on earth do drama queens like you even have boyfriends? Do you even know how roses work? So now you're spending this "nice day together" on Y! Answers? Weird.
Reply:When you put flowers in a suitcase (an with no water) they will look that way.But he didnt buy them that way, he just shouldnt of put them in the suitcase (but i guess he thought holding them would ruin them more then in a suitcase). I honestly wouldnt of throw them away though. The thought is what counts, an even if they looked black i would still put them in a vase on the table just because it was from him and i love that he put the thought into it. Also, in a way its like punishment for remembering to get them (give him credit that he even got you flowers for valentines day). But he didnt bring them that way intentionally, next time he needs to buy them when he gets there not before he leaves. But definately pull the flowers out of the trash and put them on the table (if you can) if not appologize for throwing them away and that you really did love the thought but that you thought he bought them dead and not alive.
Reply:Would it have made you more mad if he didn't have anything for you at all? Just think of it that way....
Unless you are 16 or younger, it was kind of rash and immature to react that way. A cool headed person would have been able to joke about the condition of the flowers and move on to the fun things you were planning.
Better luck next time...
Reply:i think they were probably wilted because they went on a long trip without water. he didnt buy them for you looking like that probably, especially not if he went all the way to New York just for YOU on valentines day! dont let this screw up your day! talk to him about it and tell him they were a nice idea anyway. have fun 2day!! happy v-day!
Reply:The roses were probably fresh when he bought them. They probably wilted while in his suitcase, which he did not foresee.
Now you have ruined the weekend for the both of you. Seems like you could have made your point less harshly, and still salvaged the weekend.
But no worries; if he has any self-esteem, he will find a new girlfriend soon.
I was so angry I took the the rose and throw them in to the trash can in front of him.
What made me so angry is that he see the roses are dead and he still buys them for me. It so thoughless, its like he buying me rose because its a progress or chores, not because he cares.
Am I too irrational? maybe I am.
We been together for 3 valentines already, and this is the first time he remembers its valentine. I really looked forward to spending this nice day together, and i planned a lot of thing, but this really puts it off to a bad start for us.
Lady: would you be angry if you receive dead looking roses from your valentine? And what would you have done?
Guys, how would you have reacted if you were my bf?
THanks for your help
I throw his roses into the trash in front of him? But should I?
oh, the poor roses
Reply:I think I would have behaved more charitable. YOU destroyed Valentines day because you couldn't control yourself. Yes, dead flowers are upsetting, but to throw a hissy fit is never appropriate.
I've received some pretty thoughtless gifts from my husband and I do the same thing every time. "Thank you, dear." *forced smile* Then a week or so later I talk to him about his poor choices.
Reply:He remembered! Throwing them away was wrong. How hurtful! My husband brings me flowers every other week. Sometimes money is tight and he buy's the cleaneranced flowers that are withering with some petals dried....
Be thankful your boyfriend tried.
The whole meaning of receiving something is- the thought the person giving- is putting into the idea.
You cannot take back your actions or words but you can apologize and let him know how selfish you were being and MAKE it up to him by putting thought into your apology.
This is my opinion
Reply:I love "Homer S's" answer.
You were over reacting, and ungrateful and he deserves someone who will respect him.
Reply:Firstly, if my bf came to another state to see me, I'd be thrilled to see him. If he brought me wilted flowers, he STILL CAME TO ANOTHER STATE TO SEE ME!!! It would be forgivable.
You completely overreacted!
To answer your other questions, I personally wouldn't be angry if I got dead roses for valentines (then again I kinda like dead roses).
And If I were in your bf's shoes, I would have smacked you and went right back home. He tried to do something nice for you, and you just threw his gift away! He probably bought them at a nice flower store in MD and they wilted on the trip!
Reply:Well that was mean of him to give you dead roses but considering he had them in his suitcase I doubt they were dead when he bought them. I think you over reacted a tad....
try to salvage the rest of the day... be happy you got to spend the day together not what he bought you.
Reply:THEY WERE IN HIS SUITCASE!!!
HE BOUGHT THEM FRESH!!!
THEY WITHERED ON THE TRIP FROM NY TO MD!!!
GIVE HIM A BREAK!!!
Reply:They probably weren't dead when he bought them. I don't know why he would put them in his suitcase though (I'm guessing he flew? .. but still).
Either way, it was thoughtful of him. Guys do strange things. It amazes me that men and women are even within the same phylum, being as different as we are.
Sounds like he means well .. but that he may lose his head if it weren't attached sometimes.
I wouldn't be to hard on him. I hope you didn't hurt his feelings by throwing them in the trash like that. Kind of the same thing like if, you cooked him dinner, burnt it accidentally but offered it to him anyways, and he said it's gross and chucked it in the garbage.
As far as your feelings getting hurt by the withered flowers, I understand, and can see where you're coming from. Sometimes us women can be really expectant %26amp; irrational, and sometimes it's just the way we feel. ...... Here's something I always try to remember .. You can't take back your actions, but you can always think twice first. Silly maybe, but it works to keep that in mind.
Best wishes!! :) %26amp; Happy Valentines Day!!
Reply:How on earth do drama queens like you even have boyfriends? Do you even know how roses work? So now you're spending this "nice day together" on Y! Answers? Weird.
Reply:When you put flowers in a suitcase (an with no water) they will look that way.But he didnt buy them that way, he just shouldnt of put them in the suitcase (but i guess he thought holding them would ruin them more then in a suitcase). I honestly wouldnt of throw them away though. The thought is what counts, an even if they looked black i would still put them in a vase on the table just because it was from him and i love that he put the thought into it. Also, in a way its like punishment for remembering to get them (give him credit that he even got you flowers for valentines day). But he didnt bring them that way intentionally, next time he needs to buy them when he gets there not before he leaves. But definately pull the flowers out of the trash and put them on the table (if you can) if not appologize for throwing them away and that you really did love the thought but that you thought he bought them dead and not alive.
Reply:Would it have made you more mad if he didn't have anything for you at all? Just think of it that way....
Unless you are 16 or younger, it was kind of rash and immature to react that way. A cool headed person would have been able to joke about the condition of the flowers and move on to the fun things you were planning.
Better luck next time...
Reply:i think they were probably wilted because they went on a long trip without water. he didnt buy them for you looking like that probably, especially not if he went all the way to New York just for YOU on valentines day! dont let this screw up your day! talk to him about it and tell him they were a nice idea anyway. have fun 2day!! happy v-day!
Reply:The roses were probably fresh when he bought them. They probably wilted while in his suitcase, which he did not foresee.
Now you have ruined the weekend for the both of you. Seems like you could have made your point less harshly, and still salvaged the weekend.
But no worries; if he has any self-esteem, he will find a new girlfriend soon.
Trashing the roses from your valentine in front of them??
My bf came to NY to see me from MD, and he said he got a surprise for me. He brough out a dozen of roses from his suitcase and they were a little withered and some petals were already dried up at the end of some flowers.
I was so angry I took the the rose and throw them in to the trash can in front of him.
What made me so angry is that he see the roses are dead and he still buys them for me. It so thoughless, its like he buying me rose because its a progress or chores, not because he cares.
Am I too irrational? maybe I am.
We been together for 3 valentines already, and this is the first time he remembers its valentine. I really looked forward to spending this nice day together, and i planned a lot of thing, but this really puts it off to a bad start for us.
Lady: would you be angry if you receive dead looking roses from your valentine? And what would you have done?
Guys, how would have reacted if you were my bf? Do you thinks its deserved or not?
thanks for your helps
Trashing the roses from your valentine in front of them??
The roses probably were fine when he bought them and didn't survive the trip in the suitcase very well. Guys don't think of things like that. If he were a flower expert, he would have known not to put them in the suitcase. He made an effort to spend Valentine's day with you and you got angry? I think you overreacted. They're flowers, it happens. I would have thanked him for the thought and waited to see what else he had in mind for the rest of the day.
Reply:Just maybe it was an honest but foolish mistake on his part by putting the roses in the suitcase. Was he hiding them and trying to surprise you by any chance? Let's face it, they aren't going to look to healthy coming from a suitcase. At least he tried.
Reply:He tried to do something nice for you! Okay, so it didn't work out like in movies with roses that look like they might still have roots attached, but he at least tried. Yeah, probably anyone would have thrown them away, but most women would have had compassion enough to at least wait until he was gone. Do you not even have a heart?
I was so angry I took the the rose and throw them in to the trash can in front of him.
What made me so angry is that he see the roses are dead and he still buys them for me. It so thoughless, its like he buying me rose because its a progress or chores, not because he cares.
Am I too irrational? maybe I am.
We been together for 3 valentines already, and this is the first time he remembers its valentine. I really looked forward to spending this nice day together, and i planned a lot of thing, but this really puts it off to a bad start for us.
Lady: would you be angry if you receive dead looking roses from your valentine? And what would you have done?
Guys, how would have reacted if you were my bf? Do you thinks its deserved or not?
thanks for your helps
Trashing the roses from your valentine in front of them??
The roses probably were fine when he bought them and didn't survive the trip in the suitcase very well. Guys don't think of things like that. If he were a flower expert, he would have known not to put them in the suitcase. He made an effort to spend Valentine's day with you and you got angry? I think you overreacted. They're flowers, it happens. I would have thanked him for the thought and waited to see what else he had in mind for the rest of the day.
Reply:Just maybe it was an honest but foolish mistake on his part by putting the roses in the suitcase. Was he hiding them and trying to surprise you by any chance? Let's face it, they aren't going to look to healthy coming from a suitcase. At least he tried.
Reply:He tried to do something nice for you! Okay, so it didn't work out like in movies with roses that look like they might still have roots attached, but he at least tried. Yeah, probably anyone would have thrown them away, but most women would have had compassion enough to at least wait until he was gone. Do you not even have a heart?
As The Petal Falls (poems)?
One of my few poems. Please review
I held a flower in my hand,
gently picking at it’s petals.
It hurt no more, the pain is gone
I felt the solid earth beneath my skin.
Gently rocking me to sleep
My heart in a constant rhythm, ever slowing.
The deep red water, drying around me,
The flower began to dye,
A single petal fell from its stem.
As the petal fell i saw my life,
my triumphs, and my let downs
my good moments, and all of my bad,
As the petal fell I felt my heart stop,
i strained my lungs, but they would take no more.
My hand felt cold as it too went limp.
Finally the petal hit the floor;
I closed my eyes resting... forevermore
As The Petal Falls (poems)?
Just because a poem is sad, doesn't mean one is contemplating suicide....
I think its very well written with passion. One small critique, you change tenses sometimes, like I held a Flower, and then is gone. It should be WAS gone. But that's minor. I really like it overall.
Reply:A true poet would know that it is not up to others to judge their stream of consciousness. When one expresses themselves, it is no ones place, nor their authority to judge. For if they were to judge your work, they are simply judging your mind, and to say its good or bad is simply immoral. I also believe that it is up to the reader to decide and feel the theme of ones work. This allows freedom on ones mind to roam freely in the world you have created for them. Good luck on your works.
(please rate)
Reply:I liked it except for one phrase. Maybe consider replacing "my let downs" with "my failures" or something different. Read it aloud substituting that and see if you don't think it flows and sounds better. JMO
Reply:Is this a suicide contemplation poem? that was my take on it.
Reply:I think it's pretty good.
I like it.
Nice work:)
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I held a flower in my hand,
gently picking at it’s petals.
It hurt no more, the pain is gone
I felt the solid earth beneath my skin.
Gently rocking me to sleep
My heart in a constant rhythm, ever slowing.
The deep red water, drying around me,
The flower began to dye,
A single petal fell from its stem.
As the petal fell i saw my life,
my triumphs, and my let downs
my good moments, and all of my bad,
As the petal fell I felt my heart stop,
i strained my lungs, but they would take no more.
My hand felt cold as it too went limp.
Finally the petal hit the floor;
I closed my eyes resting... forevermore
As The Petal Falls (poems)?
Just because a poem is sad, doesn't mean one is contemplating suicide....
I think its very well written with passion. One small critique, you change tenses sometimes, like I held a Flower, and then is gone. It should be WAS gone. But that's minor. I really like it overall.
Reply:A true poet would know that it is not up to others to judge their stream of consciousness. When one expresses themselves, it is no ones place, nor their authority to judge. For if they were to judge your work, they are simply judging your mind, and to say its good or bad is simply immoral. I also believe that it is up to the reader to decide and feel the theme of ones work. This allows freedom on ones mind to roam freely in the world you have created for them. Good luck on your works.
(please rate)
Reply:I liked it except for one phrase. Maybe consider replacing "my let downs" with "my failures" or something different. Read it aloud substituting that and see if you don't think it flows and sounds better. JMO
Reply:Is this a suicide contemplation poem? that was my take on it.
Reply:I think it's pretty good.
I like it.
Nice work:)
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Rabbits again?
I have a dutch and dwarf rabbit. Fully grown, castrated, ages 2 %26amp;3. Why is it, when i have, either a new back gate or outside toilet door, why do they, keep gnawing, the new wood. They have pieces of logs, to chew on, plenty of grass, dried food.
Also, how, do i stop cats and rabbits, eating my flowers, what's left of them.
The rabbits, have full run of the garden.
Rabbits again?
Rabbits love playing, make sure they have loads of toys and it will keep their interest up, rabbits tend to be naughty when they are bored. Also there is this spray you can buy from pet shops called "chew stoppa" that you spray on everything and anything you dont want eaten.
Reply:Glad to hear your rabbits have such a loving home. If you want to keep them out of your flowers, or away from certain things, just fence a smaller part of the garden for them to be allowed in.
Our bunny likes wood too. Doesn't really matter if its a pear tree branch or his housing material, they like to chew. The new wood probably has a fresh smell to it. Again, simply don't allow them to be near what you don't want chewed on.
We have had dogs who like to eat 2 by 4's more than rawhide....can't explain it! Just be sure that the bunnies aren't getting any treated lumber, or they could get really sick.
Reply:Rabbits chew on wood to keep their teeth sharp. It also helps to prevent tartar build up on their teeth. Rabbits need sharp teeth to be able to chew their food properly. They also seem to like the moisture that comes from fresh wood.
If you want your rabbits to stay out of your flowers/garden, you need to set up a run or enclosed area that they can play in. This way they will still get the exercise that they need, and you get to keep your flowers/garden looking nice.
Hopefully this helps.
Reply:We have two house rabbits who are both 2 years old. I can only offer sympathy. Our rabbits have chewed walls, wires, kitchen cupboards, doors.
I am not too sure what the best answer is but our rabbits are always better behaved when we ensure that they have lots of fresh straw to chew.
Reply:cayenne pepper or paprika on the flowers/plants/bushes will keep them from eating them, but won't hurt your pets.
The buns probably gnaw on the new wood because it is fresh and exciting.
Also, how, do i stop cats and rabbits, eating my flowers, what's left of them.
The rabbits, have full run of the garden.
Rabbits again?
Rabbits love playing, make sure they have loads of toys and it will keep their interest up, rabbits tend to be naughty when they are bored. Also there is this spray you can buy from pet shops called "chew stoppa" that you spray on everything and anything you dont want eaten.
Reply:Glad to hear your rabbits have such a loving home. If you want to keep them out of your flowers, or away from certain things, just fence a smaller part of the garden for them to be allowed in.
Our bunny likes wood too. Doesn't really matter if its a pear tree branch or his housing material, they like to chew. The new wood probably has a fresh smell to it. Again, simply don't allow them to be near what you don't want chewed on.
We have had dogs who like to eat 2 by 4's more than rawhide....can't explain it! Just be sure that the bunnies aren't getting any treated lumber, or they could get really sick.
Reply:Rabbits chew on wood to keep their teeth sharp. It also helps to prevent tartar build up on their teeth. Rabbits need sharp teeth to be able to chew their food properly. They also seem to like the moisture that comes from fresh wood.
If you want your rabbits to stay out of your flowers/garden, you need to set up a run or enclosed area that they can play in. This way they will still get the exercise that they need, and you get to keep your flowers/garden looking nice.
Hopefully this helps.
Reply:We have two house rabbits who are both 2 years old. I can only offer sympathy. Our rabbits have chewed walls, wires, kitchen cupboards, doors.
I am not too sure what the best answer is but our rabbits are always better behaved when we ensure that they have lots of fresh straw to chew.
Reply:cayenne pepper or paprika on the flowers/plants/bushes will keep them from eating them, but won't hurt your pets.
The buns probably gnaw on the new wood because it is fresh and exciting.
Can Flower Petals be sewn?
I'm in college and doing an art project for one of my courses. i need to make a veil out of flower petals and I was wondering if anyone has tried sewing rose petals together. I have been thinking about it and I think that fresh rose petals would not be too difficult to sew, but I am not sure if I should then let them dry, or if I should somehow preserve them. The project is due in a month, but I have to be working on it in class this whole time so I cant wait until the end to make it. Any suggestions would be really appreciated!
Can Flower Petals be sewn?
Flower petals get crumbly as they dry. Could you sew them onto tulle and then let them dry? Use a needle made for fine fabric. Try a small section first and see what works.
Reply:perhaps try silk flowers? you would need to preserve the rose petals, and I am not sure how long it would take to preserve the real ones, and have them maintain their flexibility.
Reply:Yes, if you had been watching Project Runway on Bravo t.v. you would have seen the designers making dresses with flowers.
One designer glued the petals/leaves on some material
good luck
Can Flower Petals be sewn?
Flower petals get crumbly as they dry. Could you sew them onto tulle and then let them dry? Use a needle made for fine fabric. Try a small section first and see what works.
Reply:perhaps try silk flowers? you would need to preserve the rose petals, and I am not sure how long it would take to preserve the real ones, and have them maintain their flexibility.
Reply:Yes, if you had been watching Project Runway on Bravo t.v. you would have seen the designers making dresses with flowers.
One designer glued the petals/leaves on some material
good luck
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